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Time Enough

9/21/2021

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My Momma would say it picks up speed...time, that is. It seems to go by faster and faster, doesn't it? My husband I spoke about it in the early waking hours recently and agreed that the percentage of time lived has a great deal to do with the perception of how "fast" time passes. 

There is the variable of Chronos vs Kairos (time in a linear measure vs time in an expansive, connected field - ISH...like "loosing track of time", living in a way that we can Trust timing...and fruition) We can't force the blossoms, the tides, the seasons, but we know the timing is right. 

Settling into what is good and right with the moments we're in will help posture our sense of safety in the now, THE space that we can participate in. We can't go back and do yesterday again, nor act out next weeks missions...we CAN be present to engage most fully with the people and tasks at hand. I notice that when I'm tuned into what is True in my moments, I can more easily adapt and engage. If I'm fearful or worried about the future, that interferes with my ability to best access my higher thinking brain and integrate the information as it presents. 

When we feel threatened, stressed or overwhelmed by "too much", our fight, flight, freeze response can triggered. If we are truly threatened, this is completely appropriate to slow digestion and cell repair to move the energy to our legs to run away from the beast that would eat us, but that response isn't helpful for many of the perceived threats we're experiencing in our world today. Today, we need our Higher and creative thinking to be engaged. Our health depends on cell repair, healthy digestion and elimination (and more). Solutions to the mysteries of the day will not come from reactions to fear. We need healthy responses moving us forward toward desired change.

How are you in this moment? Pause. Notice. Would it be wise to get a glass of water or two? An apple? Have a walk and connect with a friend or listen to something positive and inspirational...or to the birds? Or maybe the need is to mark that task off the list so that the needle keeps moving toward completion of a commitment you've made. Maybe a one minute meditation to reset then notice? 

Exercising our adaptability muscles can only improve our health and happiness. We need the firmness to withstand the storms our lives are enduring, but also the tenderness and flexibility to bend.  Yes, much work lies ahead and large issues loom, begging for our attention and energy. Our responsibility is to know when, how and what is ours to participate in...and remembering that the moment at hand is the only space we have to do that. 

We can only be in the moment we're in...that's the only space and place we can connect fully. What do you need? Notice. Please.

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In Our Face

8/16/2021

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Sometimes the things that irritate us most come right up in our faces and we must CHOOSE how we're going to respond. The instinctual behaviors to bark loudly, jump on the furniture and knock the plants down can be costly. Sometimes we have to be still and face it. Sometimes, we can look with curiosity and see that it's actually not that bad.
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Transformation

7/28/2021

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Our world is changing and I'm looking for the beautiful parts that come after the messy middles. 
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How's your tea drinking?

6/19/2021

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One of my very first Pay It Forward clients had, in her big vision/version of her healthiest and happiest Self, "feeling respected by her 4 sons and her husband". Her boys were all under 8 years old and she had chosen to homeschool them. I have a handful of kids and have been around a houseful of boys and felt massive appreciation for how she desired to show up well for her kids. 

As we navigated "her world", zooming in and out to explore priorities and brainstorm potential intentions to move the needle in the desired directions, we landed with her first week's intention to simply be "two cups of tea". For many, adding 2 cups of tea to your "to do" list may not seem like much, but for this woman, honoring her need to pause was a massive step toward caring for herself. 

I often remind momma's that taking care of ourselves isn't just so we can take care of others. Taking care of ourselves is our responsibility. Our health is our job.

As weeks and sessions went by, she moved around her map, came to know it more intimately and experienced more of who she aspired to be. At some point, I inquired about her "tea drinking" and her reply still generates joy in my heart.

Me: "Still pausing for a cup of tea?

Her: "Oh, girl, I have tea everyday! If the boys come asking for something during my tea time, they notice and say 'momma's having her tea' and they come back a few moments later."

Me: "Whhhhaaaatttt? Wait - DO YOU FEEL RESPECTED?"

That was part of the "big picture" and she hadn't noticed that yes, she did. Often, we have a lot of what we want, but focus on the gaps. Don't get me wrong, giving attention to the gaps are important so that we can fill them, but please pause, have your tea and notice what awesome parts of your world are being experienced. 
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Happy Mothers Day

5/9/2021

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Motherhood:
The most incredible, hard, beautiful, exhausting, life-giving, depleting, refining, rewarding, and never ending opportunity to Love well.

While this was taken 10 years ago and everyone is taller than me now, it is still one of my favorite pictures. 

I hope you find gratitude today (and everyday) for being given this gift...this precious opportunity to experience Love so unconditionally; as a giver and receiver. 

Yes, it's hard, exhausting and refining in ways I would NEVER have asked for; I am so very thankful for all that they still teach me. When they're little itty bitties and you are the absolute favorite on the planet, it's physically demanding in ways you couldn't have prepared for. When they're growing up, preparing to leave you, it's emotionally challenging in ways that stretch you more...that "ring of fire" experienced in childbirth, that refining fire that is part of pushing new life into the world. 

Onward, Momma - whatever stage you're in; embrace it...so much easier than resisting it. Lean in, learn and allow yourSelf to become who YOU are designed to be in this role (and beyond). You got this...and I hope you can celebrate yourself today and everyday!

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Where are My Feet NOW?

4/21/2021

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Presently, where am I?
Presently, what do I see?
In THIS moment, what is needed?
Do I need to move? Talk? Eat? Water? Touch? Solitude and quiet? Sleep and rest? Entertainment and laughter? Lightness and ease or depth and meaningful conversation (with my God, myself, or another)?

Often, I ask myself these questions to support myself in my daily living. As answers come, intuitively, I move toward them with curiousity...tell me more...show me how...

When I was a child, I counted on others to meet my needs, to show me what they are and how to meet them. My needs are my responsibility; I am a grown up and I desire to equip my kids with that skill. I have to walk my talk, model the behavior, be an example to others. Hear me, we are not an island and not meant to be alone...we need to cultivate healthy relationships that support those needs. 

I choose to notice where I am...I choose in THIS moment...and again the next...to return to the now, the present truth of what IS. As the waves of e-motion come that would take me too far forward or back, I notice them, let them be what they are, just a wave that passes. Where are my feet now? Still here.


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Work Boots

2/4/2021

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It's messy these days. Life.

When the storms came in 2020, our respective worlds were shaken. What was a tidy-ish terrain that I was navigating, discovering, and shaping to fit my desires and current construct for the needs of the season I found myself in, in a flash, there were "trees down", bridges washed out and what were easily navigated paths connecting parts of "my world", now muddied and unclear. 

The isolation, shifting to online learning for my teenagers, racial reckoning, the political climate, the collective grief regarding the loss of so much and so many in the pandemic...not to mention the adaptive processes to safely navigate our livelihoods, pivoting so we can continue to serve our people...it is A LOT...a lot of work...and a LOT of perspective checking, processing, and receiving Grace for the moments we're in. 

We are in the thick of it still and YET, at the end of the day...take off those boots; put your feet up and breath deep; grateful that you can. A season will come when you can relish some barefoot moments, slippers and flip flops, but for now...we are called to work. Lace up those boots; you're stronger than you realize and "your world" needs your participation in not only surviving this challenging 2020-2021, it needs your attention to forging new paths, bridges, clearing the debris to shift and shape the terrain anew. This storm is still here...and you can solidly plant your feet to keep discovering, keep learning how you co-create the space you are LIVING on/in. Onward, Momma...

​There is work to be done.

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Looking UP and back down...

8/22/2020

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In a recent Facebook Video, I shared some imagery that has been "on loop" for me.

When I labor, it's an intimate, powerful experience with my baby, my body, and my God. I recall laboring with my 3rd baby through the night of my daughter's 13th birthday. I drove a van full of teens to the bowling alley and a friend retrieved them so I could participate in laboring. 

My then teenage children invited friends to the birth and at after finishing a contraction, deep in my "zone", I raised my head to assess the room...who's here? everyone okay? we're all good?

At the end of my bed there were four 15 and 16 year old boys. When I saw them, I simply put my head back down and opted not to try connect with them...but rather return to where I could "do my work well".

The point of this share is to say that in this pandemic, I have respected my Land of Lisa (where I can engage well with my responsibilities and my people) and while periodically raising my head to view the changes taking place in the world, to stay informed, learn about what's going on and to make best choices for my work, myself, and my tribe. 

...and yet respecting my need to "do my work well"; I return to "my world", my contraction where I can participate. 

Maybe this imagery is helpful for you too...I'm interested in your thoughts.

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SuperMOM is Not a Myth

5/10/2020

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I've said that I hung my cape up long ago...yet as I've learned to "live in the Land of Lisa", on my healthiest "map" **, I have moments that I observe as pretty darn super! Don't get me wrong, I cross those healthy boundaries and have moments that are less than stellar, but those are less frequent since discovering (and staying tethered to) ME at my healthiest. When I miss the mark, I learn and grow deeper into what is true for and in me.

My children have been my greatest teachers and as the years have gone by, I am more and more grateful for the lessons (and heartbreaking moments) they have provided...they have refined and shaped me.

For me, SuperMOM isn't doing ALL the things ALL the time. Rather, it's recognizing that I do some things right...I have intention for the greatest good and my attempts to right some wrongs in the world is a valuable contribution. Nobody expects the movie hero's to wear their capes all day and night. When people would call me "super mom", I would reject the name in an attempt to let their feeling of being less than super be normalized. I denied the cape...yet...I am super sometimes...and so are you!

My dear father in law once told me that if he had the opportunity to do it (parenting) all over again, he would just make different mistakes. Freedom, yes? We're doing what we can with what we've been given.

I beg you to please see your skills, notice what you do RIGHT and connect to your intentions. We miss so many of the moments that could increase our confidence and competence to act from our innate wisdom because we are distracted by what's wrong, what threats need to be addressed (often before they are a reality), and what gaps need to be filled. Centering in our wisdom can be as simple as a 1 minute meditation, deep breathing, a walk, or a talk with a friend...please see yourself as SUPER MOM. Not that you are perfect, but that you are someone's hero.

Each week, for now, I'm doing live calls on Fridays and one of the emphasis is regarding the physiological changes that happen when we are perceiving threat. We MUST tether to what is RIGHT, in us and "our worlds". Do, please, look in a mirror, see what is healthy in you...nourish her...and glimpse the moments that her cape can be seen. 

Very here for you.

Happy Mothers Day!
Lisa

**to learn how to create your "map", listen to the free session recording. Once your brain has imagery to operate from, you increase the amount of decisions congruent to that vision. 

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#shrinkOverwhelm #increasePeace

4/8/2020

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​The current events have been overwhelming for many. I am receiving coaching each week for my own well-being because I am, like you, also experiencing the stress of this odd story we're witnessing.

For the time being, I'm committed to making myself available each Friday at 12:30 PM EST for a FREE Coaching session using ZOOM.

Click this link: Zoom Meeting
Or log in using:
Meeting ID: 882 892 104
Password: 012684

If you missed the call from last month when our COVID-19 storm was really getting underway, the recording can be found on my website HERE.

Please join me on Fridays and invite a friend who could also use the support. I will share some self-coaching techniques, some tips, and will leave time to open the conversation for some actual coaching if anyone is willing to share their challenge. Our success in navigating this rapidly changing season we're in requires our resilience. I'm here to support yours!
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I look forward to sharing moments with you! While we are physically distancing, we are not alone. 

Be well,
Lisa
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    Widely known for her passion, dedication and commitment to supporting the expression of potential, Lisa is famous for inspiring patients toward health, especially mothers. With more than 3 decades of service in chiropractic, she easily communicates the value of wisdom within. Her experience has been used to create a safe, effective, and reflective coaching model for mothers without the judgement, comparison, and crippling overwhelm that often inhibits change  for families.
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